Love is choosing to do
what is best for another person. Love
is an action, not a feeling. (Though feelings
are often a byproduct. Why do we feel so
great when we are dating? Because we are
making every effort to do nice things for
the other person. We choose to treat the
other person well.) We are acting in a way
that shows love.
is helping others, meeting their needs,
putting their well being first. If you love
some one you will not cheat on them, lie
to them, steal from them, etc. God introduced
his laws about love 3500 years ago through
Moses. You may be familiar with his Top
For he who
loves his fellowman has fulfilled Gods law.
The commandments, "Do not commit adultery,"
"Do not murder," "Do not steal," "Do
not covet,"and whatever other commandment
there may be, are summed up in this one rule: "Love
your neighbor as yourself." Love does no
harm to its neighbor. Therefore love is the fulfillment
of the law.
The opposite is selfishness.
Wars are fought because people want the land
that belongs to others. People murder and rape
others because they want to take something
from others or get back at someone for hurting
them. Entire countries suffer famine and starvation
because dictators oppress people. People steal
from others because it is easier than working
hard to earn money to buy things. Men use women
for sexual pleasure in short term relationships
rather than making a life long commitment to
build a life and family together. People lie
to cover up their selfish behavior rather than
facing the consequences of how their actions
have hurt others. Many seek escape from the
painful aspects of life in alcohol, drugs,
and entertainment rather than taking responsibility
to work hard at changing those things. And
there are many other subtler forms of selfishness,
like simply not doing anything to help others
when you could.
All these things cause pain,
suffering, death, and hurt. It is people choosing
to love themselves, not love others, that makes
this world a miserable place. But God has a solution.